As we meditate on suffering and how it is something that we bring upon ourselves because we are resistant to acceptance, we begin to understand that this is a lack of humility. Humility is simply seeing things as they are.
In trying to see things as they are, we naturally form opinions about the various things in our lives. When others disagree we resist them. We then find ourselves back in the loop of being resistant to acceptance and suffering.
We eventually must see that we must have acceptance in all things to prevent suffering.
So, when we find ourselves suffering, we can ask ourselves, “What thing am I not accepting? Where am I insisting that I am right and digging my heels in?”